I am always impressed with people who have dreams or goals and manage to make everything happen the way they envision things, or just have a “to do” list and get things done.  They have ambition, self-initiative, and usually good time management skills.  I can never seem to be as productive as I would like to be, so I guess I’m partly just envious.  I know people who get more done by 9 am than I do all day long sometimes, but then again, I’m not a morning person.  They wake up on full throttle.  I have no clue what that feels like, and sometimes I spend more time thinking about what needs to get done rather than actually doing things.  I get great satisfaction out of checking things of my “to do” list and want to get things done, but I can’t always make things happen in the timeframe I would like to and should be able to, but it’s sometimes due to things out of my control.  Other times it is not. I can be very focused and productive though with the right motivation.

What really impresses me is when other people are willing to tackle projects or do anything that is out of their comfort zone, which seems to be a key factor sometimes.  They’re not afraid to try something they’ve never done before or figure things out as they go.  They just take the bull by the horns, so to speak, and run with it.  Continue reading

Finding Balance

download (1)

This is something that can be difficult to do, but it is very important for both our mental and physical health.  This can encompass so many things from what we eat to how we choose to spend our time.  Maintaining a good balance of foods is always good for your health.  We shouldn’t be working and getting things done all the time and leave no time for play.  We need to make time in our schedules for doing active things so that we are not too sedentary.  Parents need to find balance between how much time they spend with their kids and how much time they save for each other.  And they should make sure there is a balance in their parenting styles so that one parent isn’t viewed as the fun parent while the other is seen as “the nag” who only is concerned about the kids getting their things done.  Some people tend to focus more on meeting others’ needs and forget to make sure they devote some time to their own well-being.  We can easily blame others for things that go wrong or are not right in our lives, but sometimes we need to step back and assess our part in the situation and admit to our mistakes, if we made any.  At times we may find ourselves needing to hold on while other times needing to let go.  We may find ourselves focused on all the negative things happening to and around us, but at some point it all becomes easier to deal with when we can shift gears and find the positives and things for which we can be grateful.  Sometimes we need to find balance between wants and needs.  And there are times where we will be more apt to make decisions based on our fears and playing it safe, while other times we may be more willing to get out of our comfort zone and take chances.  The thing I struggle with is while spending too much time reflecting on the past and thinking about the future, I forget to enjoy the present.

These things are all great areas to strive for balance, but we shouldn’t get too undone if we can’t always achieve that balance all the time.  I look at it more of an overall thing.   Continue reading

Being Centered

One of the things that yoga helps with is being centered and grounded.  Pertaining specifically to yoga, this means focusing in on your own body and needs and being in the moment, trying to rid your mind of any other thoughts.  It can also mean feeling connected to the earth below us.  Feeling centered and grounded doesn’t need to be reserved just for yoga class though and can have broader meaning in our everyday lives.

To a child, being grounded has an ENTIRELY different meaning (lol!), but to the rest of us, being grounded probably means something along the lines of having a good foundation of values and morals with which you live your life.  And being centered might mean being able to look inward to those core beliefs about what it means to be a good person and what is truly important in life and letting those thoughts and ideas guide you.  Many people have a more spiritual definition and may think of being centered and grounded as being able to focus on what God has in mind for them.  I’m sure there are many other ways to define it as well.

I think it’s worth a little time to think about what those things mean to you, regardless of how you end up defining them, and then make some time whenever possible to reconnect with your inner self, God, your ancestors looking down on you, your own thoughts and reflections, or to meditate or do whatever is right for you to feel more centered and grounded.  It’s easy to get caught up in all the details of our never-ending “to do” lists, our busy schedules, our job responsibilities, our family demands, and whatever else fills our day or may cause stress and frustration.

We all need to feed our own souls every so often, and that means different things to different people.  I find just closing my eyes or being in a dark, quiet room and then taking a few deep breaths thinking nothing but positive thoughts while I purposely smile (to signal the rest of my body to relax) does wonders.  (I discuss some other benefits of smiling and laughing in my post titled “Not Just A Smile“.)  I just need to remind myself to do it more often, and I may have found a way to help with that.  I just recently taped the following meme to my computer monitor so that I see it early in the day.  I’m finding it very helpful to do all of these things each morning.  Throughout the day I see it as well and may stop to smile and take those deep breaths, or maybe even just one deep breath.  It is all helping me to be more centered.  Perhaps it will help you, too.


If you have any thoughts to share on this topic, please feel free to click on “Leave a Comment” below the title to this post.  You can easily read any or all previous posts by clicking on the “Home” page tab and scrolling through the topics, or you can search by clicking on a category or tag word or by using the search box to the left.