It is all too easy to let negative thoughts take over our minds. They really are like weeds. They are there, whether we want them to be or not, and they just keep showing up no matter how hard we try to get rid of them. Like weeds, negative thoughts also have a tendency to easily take over and crowd out all the good.
On the other hand, positive thoughts and memories are more like plants or flowers because we want to appreciate their beauty and relevance to our lives. But if the plants or flowers do not get the nutrients, sun, and water that they need, then they will not grow. So there is effort that is necessary to make that happen. All the positive things in our lives are the same way. We need to nurture them in whatever way is appropriate. Continue reading
It amazes me how many people I know who would rather push people away than work on making any changes that they can to improve a relationship, regardless of the type of relationship. I guess it’s easier than doing some self-reflection and realizing that you are part of the problem and need to make some changes, apologize, and/or make up for something. I do understand how hard it is to make changes for the better, even if you do realize that you need to do so. But why is it so easy to do the opposite and behave even worse, which only pushes the other person away?
I’ve experienced this in different forms over the years, and I feel like I’ve been pushed so many times, that it doesn’t take much for me to push back at this point. I wish that weren’t the case, but it is. It’s hard to step back from that, and it makes it even more difficult to take steps in the right direction. And it’s challenging to refrain from reacting the same way or even worse each time to the same repeated behavior. Trying to keep motivated to make improvements when you feel like you are the only one who is interested in making the effort becomes difficult too.
It’s definitely easier to blame others for everything instead of admitting that you have made mistakes, have failed at something, or have flaws. Continue reading