It’s definitely not easy to be happy all the time, especially when your surroundings are pretty negative, but when you understand that happiness comes from within and that you have the power to be in control of how you see things and how you feel, it becomes a lot easier to at least try to be happy a good part of the time. Even though circumstances and the people around you may make you feel other emotions such as anger, frustration, disappointment, grief, sadness, and so on, there is still a happiness that no one can take away from you. And that comes from knowing you are a good person with good intentions and integrity and that you are not selfish or disrespectful to others, and so many other things I have written about previously. If you can go to bed at night knowing you have these qualities, then you should feel happy about being able to have a positive impact on the world around you in spite of the fact that the world around you isn’t always positive.
Sure, other things and people can make us feel even happier, but we shouldn’t depend on those things to be happy. Taking a vacation, going on a shopping spree, having a great date, eating our favorite dessert, and doing something fun with people we love to be with all make us feel wonderful, but those things are all just temporary. If you are lucky enough to have the opportunity to do these things on a regular basis and are surrounded by people who keep you smiling, then you probably don’t need to spend time thinking about happiness which results from the kind of person you are or the way that you think. If you are not fortunate enough, then hopefully you understand that you need to work from within and focus on what you can be grateful for, how you can be a better person, and how you can be a positive influence on the people around you. And you have to do this purposely and consciously and not wait for things to happen to you that will make you happy.
Most people seek companionship because all of the things that go along with a healthy relationship that do make us happy and make life more fun, enjoyable, and bearable during the not so good times. The mistake some people make is thinking that they NEED companionship to be happy at all. If they are not in a relationship, then they can’t seem to feel content or fulfilled in other ways. Being a happy, positive person to begin with will only help attract a companion, rather than waiting for happiness in the form of a companion to come to you. The key to happiness is not things and other people but rather what kind of a person you are and how that makes you feel in the inside. That can only be projected on the outside, which should in turn impact those around you in a more positive way.
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