It’s amazing how many decisions we make based on fear … fear of the unknown, fear of change, fear of getting hurt, fear of hurting or disappointing others, fear of rejection, fear of not being in control, fear of being embarrassed, fear of failure, fear of being all alone, fear of making mistakes or the wrong decisions, and so on. It can be a very crippling feeling that can affect our home life, our work situations, and our relationships, but it’s one we can overcome when we put our minds to it.
Sometimes we may not even be aware that we have a particular fear or that it is driving our thought process and decisions that we make. Fear of rejection or getting hurt may cause us to put walls up while in a relationship and lose sight of how we really feel about the other person and how important they are to us, but sometimes love is enough to help us conquer those fears. Fear of failure may prevent us from trying new things or applying for a job or promotion. So many other examples come to mind.
It is only when we are forced to think about what is holding us back that we may realize the impact of our fear. And it’s what we do with that realization that is key. We can continue to let fear limit our enjoyment of life and all that we hope to get out of it, which will inevitably lead to feelings of disappointment, resentment, loneliness, regret, and so on. Or we can make a conscious choice to try to put fear aside. It may be scary and uncomfortable and/or give us feelings of anxiety, especially for those of us who have difficulty adapting to change, but keeping the end result in mind often helps. There may be plenty of hurdles to overcome, but that’s where confidence, commitment, and support from our friends loved ones come into play. Figuring out what motivates us to keep pushing forward is a key factor as well.
Of course, not all fear is bad and needs to be overcome. Imagine what parenting would be like if children didn’t have any fear of negative consequences or disappointing their parents. Certain fears can be very limiting though if we let them. It is very difficult to face our fears or not let them prevent us from moving forward, trying new things, making changes, being vulnerable, and taking chances. Sometimes we just have to take that leap of faith and trust that everything will all work out in the end.
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