Some people come off as being very sincere and genuine, while others do not for a variety of reasons. The first reason that comes to mind has to do with sarcasm. I have a somewhat sarcastic sense of humor, and so do plenty of people in my life. That’s not the kind of sarcasm I am talking about. I’m talking about when people generally respond to things and speak to people with a very sarcastic tone to what they say. This often comes off as being very condescending and insincere. This is especially true when it comes to apologies. “I’m sorry I’m such a bad person” or “I’m sorry I committed such a crime” doesn’t sound sincere at all. In fact, it doesn’t even sound like an apology. It sounds like you don’t think you need to apologize. I would much rather hear something like, “I’m sorry I (fill in the blank). I didn’t realize I was hurting your feelings, but now I do. I’ll try not to do that anymore.” That sounds sincere. And so does, “You’re right, I shouldn’t have done that. I’m sorry.”
Anyone who is dishonest, deceitful, or makes promises they have no intention of keeping is not a sincere person either. I have a hard time believing anything that comes out of the mouth of someone who is like this. I am always wondering if they are just saying what they need to in order to get what they want or if they are up to something.
People who don’t seem to be sincere don’t come across as being very trustworthy either. They go hand in hand. Being trustworthy isn’t just about being reliable. It’s about people believing you mean what you say and that your word means something, which is hard to believe when your sincerity is questionable. Respect and trust really are the easiest things to lose and the hardest things to get back, and sincerity plays a big role in that.
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