A lot of the things I have been thinking and talking about lately all have to do with quick fixes. It seems like too much of the time whatever is the easiest or fastest solution is chosen, and/or it is expected that change will happen immediately. Unfortunately, what comes easy won’t last and what lasts won’t come easy.
Many situations or solutions require giving it time and putting in the effort, but not everyone is willing to do that. Whether it’s a relationship, a health issue, education reform, a social issue, or any number of other possibilities, it often takes a very long time for things to progress to the point where they are at, so we need to understand that it is most likely going to take just as long to see real change.
Relationships are good examples. It’s easier to just walk away or maybe have an affair that temporarily makes you feel better, rather than admit you might have been part of the problem and need to make some changes or dig deep to get to the root of some of the issues. Working on the issues requires dedication, a lot of effort and mental energy, and willingness to make the changes, which is sometimes the hardest part. It also requires a lot of patience because it won’t happen overnight. If you do decide to work on things, you can’t approach seeing a therapist as a quick fix either, expecting to see results in a couple of sessions. It takes time for everyone to feel comfortable, to get to the issues, and to work on the solutions. Even walking away from an argument just to end the argument is a quick fix that is not going to help. It may end the argument, but if you are not willing to come back and talk about the issues, they are going to keep happening, which will lead to more arguments.
Health issues also come to mind because who doesn’t want a quick fix to lose weight, get rid of wrinkles, have more energy and focus, and so on. Often our bodies have been out of balance for really long time, so we can’t expect that change will happen overnight. If it does, it probably won’t last. But it’s easier to pop a pill, grab an energy drink, or have a little surgery than to really focus on what we are putting into our bodies on a daily basis and anything else we can do to return our bodies to a healthy balance and then keep it that way.
Education reform is another example. Change takes a really long time, but it seems like too many people don’t understand that, especially those who make decisions about education. When new standards or protocols are put into place, we are so quick to come down on teachers for not doing their job when their jobs keep getting more and more demanding. If the first set of test scores after a new system has been put into place aren’t showing a significant difference, then the new system is deemed a failure. It’s never as simple as people want to make it out to be.
The same thing can be said for most of the issues being debated pertaining to recent events and various social issues. It’s not just a gun control issue … or a homophobia issue … or a toxic masculinity issue … or a mental health issue … or a terrorism issue … or a Republicans vs. Democrats issue … or a career politician issue … and so on and so forth. It’s everything put together, and we can’t just focus on one aspect of it and think that any one change we can make such as banning assault weapons is going to be the quick fix. It’s certainly a start, but it is going to take way more than that.
No matter what situation or personal issue, very seldom is there a quick fix. The bigger the problem or the longer it has been a problem, the harder and more complicated the solution will be. The more willing we are to accept that fact and put in the effort, the more productive we can be in resolving any issues, whatever they may be. I think the harder we work for something, the more rewarding it feels when it finally happens, which is another reason to skip the quick fixes in our personal lives.
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